And, I see, as I just said in response to Stigmata's post, that, to a large extent, I'm able to get some portion of the attention, love and affirmation that I want from S14.
I am worried by this Landica. By all means have a happy, fun relationship with your S but PLEASE at all costs do not DEPEND on him for love and affection in your life.
He is too young and even if he weren't then he is still your son and you are his mother. It is a power relationship and that power can be abused. I'm sure he is loving the fact that he has such a close R with his mother and is not a surly teen (as are you), but teens get surly for a reason - it is to break away from their parents and assert their independence. With parents who are in a healthy R there is usually quite a bit of head to head between father and son because S wants to topple F from his throne. S has already done this without a struggle.
I know of what I speak. My brother had a much too close R with my mum. He seemed unaffected at first but gradually his life fell apart. You see he had already been crowned king at an early age, he had nothing to strive for so he didn't.
I am not saying this is your S and you Landica. A couple of sentences on a BB cannot possibly sum up your relationship, I am just saying beware.
take care
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
