Quote: But I don't see what I can do --except tell him to leave -- if I can't accept him the way he is. He's got very clear boundaries.
Have you ever stated any of your own boundaries to him? How did he react?
Also, have you given any thought to what will happen in the event that you CAN'T accept his boundaries?
I'm not saying you need to kick him to the curb, but having a plan, several different plans even, is always a better option that blindly living out 'whatever happens'.
Fwiw, my H is somewhat antisocial as well. It used to really bother me, but I no longer worry about it. If he wants to spend his time holed up and missing out on life, let him. It is NO reflection on you.
