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but other than that... shoo'... you are about one of the most admirable people I've run across. So stop beating yourself up or you will be insulting my highly honed admiring skills. The job situation thingy you just described ALONE proves my point. Dam me girl, I really like you. You know Who You Are, and you know What You Want. And you know What You Are Capable of/what you aren't capable of. That is one rare person indeed.



She likes me. She really likes me. Thanks for saying all those nice things.

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Even if you don't agree with me immediately... (cuz I know you aren't going to want to)... just for exercise sake... let's take you out of the equation. Would your xH's affection/sex issue still be a problem for you? No. Would your xH's affection/sex issue still be a problem for him? (I'm gonna go with yes).



Sure. I do agree with you totally, completely, 100% here. (surprised??? ) It *is* his problem. He's admitted that he's had this exact same issue in every relationship he's ever been involved in. And that that's what caused those relationships to end.

But, you see, that really does leave me feeling helpless. If it's his problem (and it is, it really is), well, then, there's nothing I can do to fix it. And he doesn't seem to want to fix it.

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So. I need to know two things here from you. One, given everything life has thrown at you, you are an amazingly well-adjusted, healthy, normal woman. I'm sure you have your quirks, we all do... but for the most part, very normal, very healthy. Can you see this? Can you accept this about yourself?



Normal? Healthy? I dunno. Would someone who really was normal and healthy put up with the sh*t X gives me? Wouldn't someone normal and healthy say to herself, I am sooo out of here, kick X to the curb and go on to live her own life?

Life sux. At least my life. At least right now.

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