I'm not exactly sure that I understand exactly what you're saying, but I think that, at least in some circumstances, I am able to act instead of being acted upon.
For example, this work situation I was talking about in my previous post. The front office put someone in charge of my unit who I quickly decided I was not going to work for. I pulled a few strings, and within two weeks, had done something that is not easy to accomplish in my office, namely arranged for a transfer to a different unit (much to my new supervisor's dismay).
And I put down my foot and told my soon-to-be-ex-supervisor that I would not be taking any of my cases with me (except the few that related directly to my new unit) and that she was just going to figure out how to deal with them herself. She got really mad and slammed the door in my face. I just laughed and casually mentioned her bizzare and unprofessional behavior to a few well-chosen people.
You know, thinking about it, I suppose that what I'm really afraid of is that if I really start to assert myself that I'll have to kick X to the curb. Which I don't want to do. For, well, a lot of reasons. (see previous post).
But, Stigmata, if you could try to explain to me again about the three voices/entities (sounds a little Sybillesque)...... I'm still not sure I get it.
