Quote: Guys dont say sorry, boys dont cry....Smart guys are never wrong... They do try to make up for their mistakes with their ACTIONS. Let me state it clearly. Do you see any of this in your Hubby?
This absolutely is H. When he feels that he's done something wrong, he takes out the garbage or takes me out to dinner or cleans up the living roon.
Quote: I also assumed that you havent tried stopping him while he is in a fit of meanness and saying- --- 'If you cant be nice----There is the door. I will not be treated by anyone, Especially you, my best friend,(?) like this. You can stop, or you can leave. Your choice.'---instead of leaving yourself(stop doing that-- every time you come back He wins the battle. Your reinforcing bad behaivior on his part. STOP IT!)
And what if he says no? Actually, more often, it's the other way around. I'll try to talk about X (what I want, what I don't want), he sets a boundary in stone. "Landica, I don't want to talk about this now (or ever). Just leave me alone."
Quote: I want you to consider the following. If my H leaves me -awesome, terrific, wonderful me--- I have lost nothing.
Because that fear of loss is the only thing stopping you from standing up for your needs.
Well, that's true. I don't want to lose H. But, maybe, you're right. If he can't/won't meet my needs, what exactly am I getting out of this relationship?
Oh, and I'm sorry that I didn't recognize what you were trying to say/do.
