Please don't worry about the job assumptions. I was purposely being vague (and maybe even a little tiny bit misleading), since I didn't think it was really necessary to explain exactly what each of us did for a living.
Quote: Your H's past coping behavior is a bit unsettling to me. Would you ever describe him as an empathetic person?
Interesting question. I'd never really thought about it that way. I guess I'd say that, in some ways, H is too empathetic. That is, he is so deeply affected by others' unhappiness or pain, that he can't deal with it except by withdrawing totally or lashing out.
