Excuse me. I believe Corrie and I both have come upon something new, and unexpected, and it causes us both to be a little 'testy/ing' on occasion. Its fun for us though.
So after reading all of your comments from yesterday about your H's foo, etc. I am going to have to join the unanimous decision, sigh. I dont want to. (but also refer you to Cobras closing remark. so M positive, cant help it.) But you -so far- have demonstrated that you are yet another one who has 'tried everything.'
Not really, but it appears as though your issues are as Cobra and Corrie are saying and about to walk you thru.
I assumed a couple things about you, one was right one was wrong, but right now 'iron walled' boundaries are more important then anything else. Care to share you FOO?
I want to say one last (probably long and rambling) thing to this
Let's just say, maybe he shouldn't be so positive that I won't
Do the 'right thing'. Make a decision. Then follow it thru. do not willy nilly stumble from this to that, to whatever. Not for him. Not for morality, not for OP,(well maybe your son).
For you. What the 'right thing' is, is not simple.( do not just see the obvious here of my above quote. Look deeper. you didnt think this, would be simple, did you?) Its always unique to each person. It is usually 'the hard road'. Which of course entails 'pain'. ewww yuck we all hate pain. growth always requires discomfort. Always. So when it really hurts. Know you are growing. when you take it you'll always be able to hold your head up, and look back at the path taken with out regret that comes from not wanting to see where you come from. What the steps are to get started is always confusing and easier with OP help, BUT in the end you own it.
Im gonna sit back and watch you and Corrie for a bit, when those boundaries become clear to you, then I will toss out some of those 180's. youll find you will be already doing them though.
you can do it smarty pants, (and I say it with encouragement and sincerety this time, not bantering)
I am going to give you a direct hint, I know the above is very broad and indeterminate, not why you are here.
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but he hates any discussion about "the relationship," so I basically don't have any deep discussions with him I dont know how else to put it. He has to be broken of this. Something that will require him to come to the table and talk about the R, as yuckky as doing that is.
attraction is not logical, but we can choose to be.
