Well, darhlin... <makes squeaky sound on teeth with tongue, scratches her head in a bit of confusion and bemusement>...
.... how, exactly, did my post to another person become about you, sweetpea, simply because I disagreed with one very small part of your post... and referred to it in order to explain my own thoughts on what might be going on with Landica?
And if you'll re-read my post, it has nothing to do with boundaries or Getting A Life... I'm probing for something a bit deeper here with her... and no, it has nothing to do with her xH or some "Strong Women Rule <snap!>" stand... or anything else...
ah, bf... < chuckle >
Landica: <-- indicator of who I am addressing In my opinion, listen up if I wasn't clear earlier... I think you are feeling very confused on certain aspects of your life... you feel the confusion... it expresses itself as sadness and perplexity within you... you seem to be looking for this source of confusion so you can fix it... fair enough. Smart thing to do.
Given your personality type, and your propensity to blame yourself for everything... I don't think you are going to find your source of confusion... because you aren't looking in the right place.
I think your xH is part of it... he is a symptom... a by-product, if you will... of this confusion... but him, his problems, how he acts, doesn't act, decides to change, not change, etc., has nothing to do with why you are confused... and you continuing to look to this R as the source is only going to keep you confused.
In my opinion. The R is NOT the problem, never has been... and once free of the clouds of confusion... never will be. Landica... whether this man loves you or not, wants to be with you or not... has NOTHING to do with ANYTHING.
Let me know if you would like to explore my direction. If not, cool.
