So Stig and Corrie agree, and Stig and BF agree, and Cobra!!!!! (welcome back WTH you been?) and Corrie agree and Cobra and BF agree,

but Corrie and BF disagree? LOL. your killing me. LOL.
<head shaking>
Corrie I completely agree with you. So there, I know you would rather fight, but work and life and excellent women posting about how hard they work at a R, (my x was hard working, and really pretty excellent, up till the pesky A thing. frack Ive owned mine allready, get outta my head.) and stupid barrel biter songs with bad synth music, got me worn down. I could have gone ..... mmm... forever whithout hearing that particular piece of crap.

I was leaving ideas, and giving Landica things to ruminate on. She needs to change how she comes at the problem and institute some new thought pattens as all three of you specifically pointed out.

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What would a confidant person do.... what would defuse the situation, yet set boundaries at the same time



So if you think she is currently being confidant, setting boundaries and defusing rather then escalating the current situation, them by all means we disagree. Is that checkmate yet?


Since she does want to have a good R with her SO, she cant exacerbate his issues, just because she decides to work on hers. There is this whole other option besides attack and retreat.


I love your championing of womens boundaries posts though. They make me wanna shout, "YOU GO GIRL".

give me a few days, I wrestle with you somemore. Im taking a timeout right now.

Landica,

Have you ever been angry? Did you see Mrs. Nops people pleaser post?