How horrible. If your H wasn't in a wildly angry mode and was just expressing his actual feelings then there really is nothing to discuss. Intellectual compatibility, sharing a child and even history together are NOT going to ameliorate that kind of disrespect and complete lack of caring. Lanica - describe yourself when you felt the best and most accomplished ever in your life. What was going on in your life at that time? Can you have any semblance of that while living with H? What about without him?
Take care of yourself. Get a facial, hair done, go shopping. Hang out with some girlfriends who make you feel good. I don't know that going on the date is going to anything but give you a temporary emotional up followed by a huge emotional down when you return home to the situation you are in.
