I wish I can explain to you how much I appeciate the sympathy. (Funny how understanding and empathy, even from anonymous strangers on a bulletin board really does make you feel better)
Yeah, but (you knew this was coming), "fun" is about all I'll be having on this date. I like this guy and he likes me. He's very romantic, brings me flowers, books of poetry (he's even written a few poems about me!)and gave me a beautiful set of earrings to commemorate the first time we ML. In general, he's a lot of fun to be with and to talk to. He's also very, uh, inventive.
But he is a definite commitmentphobe, late 40s, never married. And I think that part of the reason that he likes being with me is that, given my strong emotional attachment to H, there's really no danger that I'm going to be pushing for anything more.
So, while I can enjoy my time with him, I'd really be looking for something more committed if I kicked H to the curb.
