Quote: GEL said: Since you are married at this point, either don't do the "date" or kick your H to the curb.
Well, actually, we're not married anymore. Although we were married for about 10 years, we got officially, legally divorced in early 2000 (and I have the papers to prove it). So, at the momement, we're just living together.
But your larger point is right, and I really want to believe (despite my apparently Mariana-trench level self-esteem) that I could do better than H.
The main thing standing in my way is the fact that during the time H and I were divorced and not living together, I dated a bunch of guys and, even though most of them involved only 3 to 5 dates, all of our relationships (like every relationship) had problems and definite incompatabilities. Different problems from the ones I have with H, but the whole experience made me think, well, maybe H isn't so bad and maybe I just need to accept the bad with the good. I know I'm kind of rambling, but part of me thinks that maybe I should try to improve my relationship with for H, who, despite my descriptions of him, does have many good points, rather than trade him in for some new guy who has different good points, but will also, inevitably, have a lot of bad characteristics that H just doesn't have.
