Thanks for the quick responses. Yes, we're just living together and not remarried. But we didn't get back together just for our son, though that was certainly part of it.
I am really really fond of H. I'm very attracted to him (he has gorgeous broad shoulders, long eyelashes and killer cheekbones). He's one of the smartest people I've ever met and (trying not to brag here), one of the few who can keep up with me intellectually. And he's not totally hopeless on the romantic front. In fact, he just e-mailed me one of Shakespeare's sonnets.
Also, to some extent, given his background of childhood sexual abuse (not to mention his FOO issues), I can understand and sympathize with his difficulties with affection. He's not a bad person. Just a very damaged one.
During the years we were apart, I did a fair amount of dating and had two serious relationships (in one of which we got engaged). I ultimately broke off the engagement for many reasons, but, in part, because I just didn't feel as close to him as I did to H or feel as though my fiance could really understand me the way H can.
I was just hoping that someone might have some strategies to make things between H and me a little better.
