I was driving by the OW's place of work and went in. She was/is a gm of a retail store. When she walked by me, I said "Excuse me are you the manager?" She extended her hand with a huge smile and introduced herself and asked if I needed help. I took her hand, shook it and calmly said "Nice to meet you. I am Dave's wife. I hope you are having fun with him" She jeked her hand away, dropped a huge pile of papers on the floor and crouched down, scrambling on the floor to pick them up. I calmly turned around and walked out. No confrontation. No yelling or pleading. I just wanted her to have an attractive, calm, intelligent woman's face in her mind when I was mentioned by my H.
This is priceless!!
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.