In my mind, I can differentiate between someone who would get involved with a woman who is separated from her husband and ready to divorce and someone who would knowingly get involved with a woman who is still living at home, with her husband and two young kids. I wonder IF he is something other than a monster, whether he would be swayed by the truth.
Chances are he's not a monster, just some guy. And if he has eyes and a brain, sooner or later, if he hasn't so been told, he'd figure out that she's still got a husband living at home.
I think too there's at least a third type of guy, one who would be with a married woman who's still living at home, believing that she's not happy, is seeking to get out, who's husband makes her miserable, who's H isn't the right guy for her, and who feels that he's her white knight, which makes it all OK to be with her.
In any event, it would not change my W's feelings about him, or me and would serve to give her more ammo that I am controlling and will never change.
That could very well be. You could also be looked at as the guy who's trying to do things to rob her of her "happiness" and is only interested in doing such things to get her to fold and come back to the relationship he "selfishly" desires, not her.
