I feel the same way a lot of the time. Not knowing too much at all about my W's OM, I really have to wonder if he knows what her situation is. In my mind, I can differentiate between someone who would get involved with a woman who is separated from her husband and ready to divorce and someone who would knowingly get involved with a woman who is still living at home, with her husband and two young kids. I wonder IF he is something other than a monster, whether he would be swayed by the truth. In any event, it would not change my W's feelings about him, or me and would serve to give her more ammo that I am controlling and will never change.
