"You are not shooting yourself in the foot, she is Chrome. You cannot change the past. Just like I cannot change my R with OM. Our H/W have to deal with that or not. You are doing what you can to make her as comfortable as possible while still keeping on top of the issue. She is using the ow kiss as an excuse to not work on her own sexuality. Just my 2 cents."
I agree LFL, my choice of words (permanent) was unwise. I do have to accept the fact though that my W is bound to have issues about this, and I cannot expect them to just go away and for things to be ok between us. I am disappointed that this is halting some of our R progress, but it is a bed of my own making.
I do agree though that at some point this needs to cease to be an issue if we are going to have a healthy R. How long? I have no idea, nor do I really have any idea what I should do about it.
You are right, I may have handed her the perfect excuse for not working on certain aspects of our R, but the key part of that sentence is "I handed her." I wish I had taken the "high road" of R repair like so many people here have, but I didn't. And when you take the low road you have to realize that you will get crap on your shoes. But this is the kind of crap that doesn't wash off unless your SO wants it to wash off.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
