So hugging her after her O while she lays on top of me, gently stroking her back and behind (man this still feels like TMI ) is something that many W like?
If she seems to need this to get her emotions back in check after her O then by all means it is great. I have heard of woman crying after a O because of the connection/love they feel at that moment. But to do it every time no. Hence my statement of you can control the trusting even from the bottom after her O and either increase it or decrease it and gauge her response/expression.
man this still feels like TMI
To much info never for me. Come on I have even spilled my wierd quirks about what I like to do after my H cums. So you my dear man are a tame info giver.
Can you trust me when I say it would be difficult to change this concept in a meaningful way
[ Can you trust me when I say it would be difficult to change this concept in a meaningful way?
Sure I can trust you to tell me that. But the whole purpose of changing it or adlibing it to some degree is to make it more about getting your wife to open up a little and you get to know her sexual side and likes better. So it is about giving the role playing new meaning.
So not being sure what it is you can add a new twist or turn her or there.
Chrome Sweetie are you ready to play W I guess Chrome Well you know what I like but I was really thinking I would like to dribble a little honey between your breast tonight and then>>>>>>>>>> You get the picture A little varition not a huge jump.
I do see your point. My question/problem is, how do I translate her freedom in the context of the fantasy to freedom in the context of reality?
Slowly by changing the concept and the meaning of the fantasies. Which will help her except her own sexuality. And a fantasy played out in a bedroom is a reality of the two involved you are still Chrome and Mrs Chrome just adding a little spice. And allowing her to not be so sexual repressed right now even if she is role playing added in with all the other changes may adventually reap you the rewards you want. Women are wierd creatures they either embrace there sexuality or repress and deny it. And few really do not have any but few is the key word. Some woman also embrace there sensuality others don't think it exist. Your wife is young with really little experience in this. She can learn it all yet.
Wow. A very positive result. I know my W is very ambivalent about me MB. She doesn't like it at all as a matter of fact, so I don't let her know when I'm doing it. I'll have to admit that I even feel embarrased if she realizes I am doing it while it is going on. Sucks to feel that way about your W.
There was a long period of time in my life I did not masturbate. People that masturbated was bad blah blah. Urges for sex that were unmet by another were unattended. That was at a time when I was still not comfortable in my own skin of sorts. I have always embraced my sensuality but my sexuality had hang ups. I did not MB until my early 30s I did not touch my own privates while having sex nor kiss anyone after oral sex because ohhh I did not want me in my own mouth blah blah until in my mid -late 30s. My H probably felt the same way you do. Since I was not about it he was ashamed of it. It was not until I openly excepted and encourage it did that dynamic change in our relationship. Now he is as comfortable doing these things in front of me as I am him. But I had to prove to him first I did not find him a freak for doing these things for him to open up and do them. That is what sexual inhabition is all about.
The problem is, I need to educate myself on the location of the Sushi restuarants. Any pointers
Close your eyes and open your mind its all in there already Chrome. I know what men like maybe not my H. And no I do not watch porn nor do I read x rated material. If you need more help I will spell it out but I may likely get kicked off this board. You have read dialouge between me and LFL joking around about pumpkin butter and various other things. Its all about imagination.
"MB in front of me" philosophy, but are there any other suggestions
Start simple little things like getting her to help you stimulate her add a toy a simple cockring with a clit stimulator. Get her to apply the astroglide to herself. ( She is the one that knows where it needs to go to ease her discomfort). Get a gel with a warming solution in it. Watch her take a shower while waitting to help her scrub her back.
get. The only question I would have about it would be that we might have difficulty with penetration in that position.
Insertion would be the same knees down position the only change would be no laying down giving her the option to grind and also to determine how deep the penatration goes. Try it both ways knees up facing you and away from you. Depending on what direction your erection goes (straight out, More upward, More downward) will determine which way facing will feel better to her. And hit the right spots on the inside.
and her sitting in my lap facing me
That is about my least favorite myself tried it in the computer chair one day and ahhh no just did not work right.
Thanks for the tip!!
Yeah right now that I have made myself sound slutty you thank me! Hay wait maybe I could do that prostitute sailor thing after all
"can only breathe out of one nostril so she can't kiss for very long."
Your face is much larger then hers. This is a common problem for me and my H. Do not kiss straight on gonna have to not only lean down but sorta cock your head to the side so it does not press hard on her one nostril.
And then if that fails you can always joke around that you know your kisses take her breath away.
