Well I am glad you have fun. I promise I won't try to feel your rear (unless you want me to of course). I wish I knew the exact answer, but the "act as if" does seem to be a good idea. He is, I would say, reaching out to you. He senses your feelings and is hoping for a little glimmer. You don't HAVE to give him one any more than you HAVE to feel a certain way. You feel what you feel. Can't be helped.
But I still think sitting on his lap just because is a good idea. When you feel down, physical contact makes you feel better even if you want to resist it at first.
