Okay- now you made me cry- b/c I think you speak for everyone on this board when you write about Hope's heart, capacity to forgive, and how obvious it is to all of us here... man. I only wish I had some of the strength to love like Hope does...
Hope- I have no real advice to give, again. Just hang in there. I know it sounds like H is certain, that he has made up his mind, but we've all heard it from our spouses. I can't even begin to tell you how many times I've heard from my H, in no uncertain terms, that he doesn't love me, that it's over between us, etc. I know how it feels, but really, it just stems from confusion, hurt. This is the back step now- albeit a big one- that the WA's always perform after a period of closeness. In some ways, and I don't mean this in a bad way, but I was expecting this from your H.
And if you are concerned about H's tone...think about it: How many times have you tried to put more "force" into your words when trying to make a point, etc., about something you were not entirely sure of... like saying it more forcefully means that it is true, even though we know it isn't....
Anyways, it sounds like your head is in somewhat of a decent place, despite the pain. You know to step back and not contact H; good for you. It sucks, but it's the right thing to do. H needs to sort this out for himself.
Just know that you are a strong, courageous woman who will survive this, no matter what. We all admire you for your quiet fearlessness....
((((((Big ole Hugs))))))
PetiteFlower
Quote: Follow Your Bliss
~Joseph Campbell
