I agree, but you know something, I don’t think he knows what to do. He may want to get to that point, but he doesn’t know the steps to take to get there. He’s being emotionally immature if he thinks this happens overnight.
Wow, my sentiments exactly. Like I told Rob a few days ago, we have to realize just how much effort, reading, soul searching, talking, counseling, etc. we have put into this while all they do is "have fun" with their OP and "explore their feelings", i.e. bury their feelings in an unhealthy relationship. They are emotional infants, at least in knowledge of this kind of stuff, when compared to us. I thought the same thing of my W when she was talking about never going to C and how she knew what was wrong, etc. She just doesn't get it. Your H may not either. It is WORK and it is scary to know just how much and not think our spouses either can or will do what it takes. I guess that's why we're here. We need all the help we can get because it is a confusing, uphill battle sometimes.
