Thanks for posting. It’s so comforting to have people care when you’re in a spiral of emotions. It does appear H is very confused... and also placing some unrealistic expectation on you I’m glad someone else agrees with me here! I do feel that H. is being unrealistic in regards to how he expected things to go. I know he’s not really thinking about it, but I have been hurt very deeply by his actions. Only time will help heal that. he's going to have to put a little more effort and work into things if he wants to get to that "comfortable " place I agree, but you know something, I don’t think he knows what to do. He may want to get to that point, but he doesn’t know the steps to take to get there. He’s being emotionally immature if he thinks this happens overnight. I'm sure you are just a whirlwind of emotions right now, but just remain calm. H WILL be back again... just prepare yourself for how YOU want to handle it Yes, I sure am. But I am trying to be calm and centered. I don’t want this to set me back.
If he wants to see where things can go for us, he does have to realize we need to work on the friendship aspect first. Mind you, the key word in that last sentence is “work”, and I am aware that anything going forward with H. will take work. My concern is that he doesn’t comprehend this. I mean, after a near-drowning experience, you don’t just jump right back into the deep end.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
