Frankly, I’m scared. If he’s coming around I don’t want to do anything to mess it up. And because I don’t know what he wants, I don’t know how to act.
Ok, isn't this more of the assuming and mind reading that helped get most of us here in the first place? I don't really have a good alternative other than to just ask him. If he doesn't know what he wants, or can't tell you, then you have no choice to just act on what YOU want or need. I think communication is the key in my sitch and probably most of ours here. If we are ever to get to a place where we feel comfortable and they do too, it will be based on communication. I may just be that our W/H's are not in a place where they can do that, and we CANNOT return to the days of mind reading. Like others have said, in light of his continued confusion, you must stay the course and keep doing for you, not him.
