The Other Side of the Mountain

[hopefloats7]

Thank you, NY S, and grasshopper for posting your opinions.

You’re right; I don’t want to go back to pursuit mode, even if that is how he was anticipating I would act. Then again, after so much rejection, it’s unreasonable of him to think I would continue to act that way towards him.

I feel like last night he wanted to touch home plate, so to speak, while he continues to run the bases.

He sounds confused, perhaps he doesn't even know what he wanted
He did say at one point, “I’m not even sure why I came.” I get the impression that he had built up his visit in his mind but once he got there, it wasn’t living up to what he expected.

I’ll do what you suggested, more of the same. If nothing else, it has been helping me, even if it doesn’t help my R. with my H. I will admit, today I feel a little shaken up. I was not expecting all of that last night.

I hope you stay centered and ride this out. I also hope that your H realizes the right thing to do (you) and re-commits himself to your R.
Me, too. I would still like to give this a chance…the chance that he’s yet to offer.
We have yet to agree to work on our R. only because H. said that’s not what he wanted. I’m still unsure of what he was looking for last night, and I feel like I didn’t provide it, even though he said it was nothing I did or didn’t do.

I’ll see what he does from here. If we make it to the weekend and he’s still interested in coming over after work for dinner and a movie, then great. We’ll see how that goes.

Frankly, I’m scared. If he’s coming around I don’t want to do anything to mess it up. And because I don’t know what he wants, I don’t know how to act.