I really think it's part of the confusion he's going through, but a good part. Finally he's doing what I asked my W about last night. I asked her "If you're so confused, how come all your actions to sort out the confusion are with the OM?" Now your H realizes that there are some feelings he needs to check out on your side of the fence too. The OW may not be out of the picture, but he seems to be coming around to thing not being so cut and dried. I hope you stay centered and ride this out. I also hope that your H realizes the right thing to do (you) and re-commits himself to your R. Right now is the time to observe and trust your instincts. You've spent time building them up, now use them.
