The Other Side of the Mountain

[hopefloats7]

Hi all,

I met up with Sassy this morning; had a wonderful time. She looks great, of course, and is just as sweet as you would imagine. We had yummy omlettes and a LOT of coffee (waiters very attentive at this place!). Mr. T. was there, too, and we enjoyed some good conversation; he knows my situation, too. Sassy got to witness WAH in cell-phone action--3 calls to my cell while we were at the restaurant. I let it go to vm. Unsure if he actually went to lunch nearby.
We took some pictures; maybe she can post a link to them.

When I got home, there was evidence of H. being here while I had been out. I am so glad this happened. He came over and I wasn't here! That must be why all the calls; he had no idea where I was. He left me my gift card he bought me for Christmas (and kept forgetting to bring over) on the table. Very nice; I will enjoy using it. I felt bad for a moment as I realized his Christmas gifts are still sitting in the guest bedroom, wrapped. Next time he comes by (whenever that is) I will give them to him.

I started reading Make Up Don't Break Up (thanks, Sassy!) and it is excellent!!! Highly recommend this one. I am clearly the pursuer, and H. is the distancer. I have got to learn how to alter this behavior in myself if I can ever have another healthy relationship in my future.

So, I'm reading and relaxing, and my cell rings; it's H. again. I picked up. He asks how I am, etc. and mentions he came by the house today, and I wasn't here. I said, "Yes, I saw that you were here; thanks for the gift card!" He is not even paying attention to this...he said, "Yeah, I stopped by...where were you?" I told him I went to brunch with a girlfriend, which led to him asking where, what did I have, how was it, etc. I never asked him if he met his friend for lunch. We made a little small talk, nothing major, and he said he was going to go lay down for a while; he is still not feeling well and wanted to take a nap. He said he'd talk to me later. It was a good conversation, and I think my day turned out well without me even trying. I wasn't here when he came over and he totally expected me to be. A+ for Hope.

And so now I'm wondering what the hell is going on here. He is off today, and calling me multiple times. Where is o.w.? Why isn't she nursing him back to health? This is atypical behavior for him on his day off, and I don't think it's just because he isn't feeling well. Something is odd here.

Feeling good today! Sassy really lifted my mood; she is a lot of fun and very inspiring for me. I'm sure she'll post an update as soon as she can.