Hope- Here's my 2 cents...don't ask him. Remember...will asking bring you closer to or farther from your goal? In your mind, it would be nice to know where your H is living. You are being logical and considerate. But, remember that all these WAs care about right now is themselves. What if he says, "yes, i'm living with ow"...will that make you feel better or worse? In the scheme of things, does it matter where he is living? Its just geography.
Every day I wake up and I feel a little less hopeful about my M. ever being restored. I mean, who am I fooling here? If H. were interested in working things out, he’d be contacting me and making that clear.
There are days when i feel this way too. A while back, i had this feeling (it was very strange) that the ow was no longer in the picture. And i thought, if thats the case, then why isn't he working on our M? But, i think NYS is right...they don't come right out and say "okay, i want to work on this." We have no idea what is going through their minds. We don't know what efforts they might be making to improve the R. Either way, i remind myself that i can't control him. Try to let go a bit.
