That was truly lovely of you. What a nice story, too. I would love to get that book for my little niece. Thank you for making V-day a little bearable for me. I know it isn’t healthy, thinking about this, but the fact remains that I dislike knowing my H. and o.w. are going to be “celebrating” their “love” for each other that day; a holiday set aside to be thankful for real love and goodness. Their R. is a farce; they should not have the right to participate in this holiday!
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
Hope- You know, i've never been a fan of Valentines Day...i was just kind of indifferent about it. But, thinking about it this year, i can't help but feel sad. This will be the first in 10 years that i spend without my H. And i feel the same way about my H spending the day with ow...i think that makes it so much worse. Knowing that he will be with her, doing things that he has done with me...it is very painful. I just can't wait until the day is over. I would love to try to ban the day, but we are surrounded by it. I will try to take pleasure in the Valentines Day celebrations here with the kids...and hope that next year is a better day.
I started a thread on Valentines day awhile back and quickly realized it was a bad subject around here. I am dreading it. In fact it's probably the biggest test of faith I have on my horizon. It's not the commercial aspect, it's the personal things that surround that day for me and my W. I will cry on 2/14 but I hope it will not be too much. Feel better!
Quote: I started a thread on Valentines day awhile back and quickly realized it was a bad subject around here.
Actually I think that's why we started the Secret Valentine if I am not mistaken. Sign up for it...we've got a good list going so far...even our friends down under are participating!!
I promised myself, no tears on V-day. None. I will not let it upset me so badly that I cry over it. H & o.w.'s R. is a facade. They have no business celebrating the day, but I'm sure they will regardless. I hope they feel the phoniness of it.
Sorry for the bitter words...it's not my nature, but I feel strongly about this!
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
I feel the same way. It's pathetic and ridiculous that they're going to profess their "love" (Ok, see that there, i just threw up in my mouth for a second) and thank God we don't have to partake in the madness of it all this year. Know why? Because we can be with the person we love and who loves us most -- ourselves. Do something wonderful just for YOU. Take care of YOU. Let's take the day to remember, not that we don't have love on that day, but that we're wonderful, incredible, inspiring people who DESERVE LOVE IN ITS TRUEST AND MOST PURE form... not something that is born out of lies and deception.
Does that make sense? I just got off a 12 hour workday, I think I'm prattling.
Morning hope- I'm trying hard not to think about V-day. But, i am also going to try very hard not to cry on that day. I guess its good that its during the week...i think it would be worse if it was on a friday or saturday. I don't know why its bothering me so much.
Sorry for the bitter words
I don't think they were that bitter...now, i could give you bitter!
I’m dealing with something today. I think my H. may be living with o.w., or at least partially staying with her. I would like to ask him if this is the case. I know there are plenty of reasons I shouldn’t. I still want to ask anyway. I mean, he knows where I live; I don’t feel his living situation should be a secret. I just don’t know how to word my question so that he doesn’t feel cornered. Meanwhile I’m writing out on an index card the few things I do want to say to him next time I see him. I’m revising it so that it’s as short as possible (learned to say things in as few words as possible when talking to WAH). I’d like to incorporate my question about where he’s living presently into my conversation, but I don’t know what I’m going to say. Every day I wake up and I feel a little less hopeful about my M. ever being restored. I mean, who am I fooling here? If H. were interested in working things out, he’d be contacting me and making that clear.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
HF Other than concern about who he may be living with, do you have a reason to need that answer? If not, don't ask. It is none of your business right now. Your're not fooling anyone, including yourself. Your H left b/c he didn't want to work on the R. Turnaround on that position, if it happens, takes time. Until he tells you otherwise, assume that he hasn't turned YET. Yet does not mean never. Just take care of yourself.
