An emergency question with a complicated answer. Ellie, I imagine you'll have plenty to say about this. I hope you will.
S. and I are going to have a big Financial Discussion one day soon. Here are the facts:
1. We have been splitting everything down the middle except for house expenses. Every time we go to the grocery store, every baby thing, all medical expenses.
2. S. went back to work F-T without really considering how it would affect my ability to work. I had counted on him being a freelancer still, working a few days a week, and having him around to help while I worked a few days a week, too. But he decided for financial reasons to go back, and now I can't really work at all without child care.
I'm sure he's going to ask me to contribute to the expenses of living in the apartment (utilities, to be sure, but he's also made noises about figuring heating costs, wihch he pays as a landlord for the whole house).
How do I handle this? I feel like I am working F-T taking care of our child, granted one he didn't want at first, but how does one handle this type of financial versus sweat equity without causing friction?
I'm sure there's stuff I'm leaving out, but I have 2 seconds left to post. Please, any insight appreciated, especially from those who are F-T caregivers of their children, and those who work to support their family solo.
