I think I have always been a pursuer...and I think W may have always been a distancer (but not to this level)...she has always had a tendacy to run from conflict and I think this is where she is now...as evidence, she says "i don't know if I can give 110% to make our marriage work" tells me that it is less about me being controling and demanding and more about can she handle the work load. What a crappy way to go through life knowing you took the "easy way out" (her words) by not working at the marriage. Although, I think in her head that she has not made up her mind yet but I seem to be pushing for D and I don't think that she likes me taking away one of her options, but she is not giving me many choices.
Best that I find out now that she can't handle work...what if we had a child that was mentally challenged or a disese or I lost my job and we had financial difficulty...i really don't feel like she would be in my corner to tackle the world...it kinda feels like she would cut and run...not a really good feeling inside about W right now.
