just re-reading my post and some thoughts were going through my head...
How would you like to go through life knowing that you decided to take the "easy way out" and always wonder how good it could have been. W actually said that...To me, that sounds like the decision is still possible and it is less about me being this terrible person and more about is it worth the work or not.
I would hate to go through life wondering if I gave up something great because I wanted to take the "easy way out".
and how about the "we would definatly need to renew our wedding vows" W said?
sounds like she has been thinking about it...
One way or the other, I will be fine and I will continue to detach and plan for the worst but hope for the best.