As you all suspected and I suspected W did not want to stop seeing OM...she said that it was not about him...whatever...she is so pathetic...she tried till the very end to say that he is not the reason we are here...and I kept saying I'm not saying I want to reconcile...I was just asking if he is so not a factor, then let's try for 4 weeks to see what happens with us without OM. She was so busted...she didn't know what to say...she rolled her eyes and said how I don't understand and all that stuff...whatever...I mean WHAT EVER!
SHe says that she is getting from OM what she is missing with me since we don't talk anymore...duh...going dark/giveing her sapce she requested...she is just trying to spin this back on me...she says that it is me being controling again. But I was not...MC backed me up...
The appt started out talking about money and how it is hard on her to change her lifstyle...duh!! She started trying to find out where some $ in some accts have gone...Duh! Duh!
I ended the session at 7:30 and it was to go to 8:30...I left telling W that I would be meeting with L on Fri am and that I would sign the papers and she would be served...I also told her that I would be seeking financial support also...she is sooo freaking right now...not only has her lifestyle changed, it's going to get a whole lot worse if she pays monthly nut also...As I told her you can run away from your marriage but you can't run away from your debts...Sorry.
I feel Ok about things believe it or not...It just might be the addreniline and the meds...but I saw where this was heading and it was how I thought all along...a charade. It feels like I have a path now to recovery...I can move on and start to re-build myself and impliment the wonderful things that I have learned through Db.
I know this is just the start of another roller coaster of D and I will have highs and lows...but I will be on the path of recovery, and confident in knowing that W was never willing to reconcile at least while OM was in the picture.
