It really is a little easier to look at it objectively without emmotion (not that I don't feel for you because i TRULY do) The drive part and coming home is nothing.
The VM that she was considerate and wanted to chat is positive, but just take it for what it is!
The VM change with her last name could be that people are phoning her cell phobe and leaving a message as a wrong #! It is nothing!
If I were in your shoes I would be doing the same thing so hopefully we can continue keeping ourselves "level" as Frank said!
Tim
my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1
