Vince, You and I are at the same point. Get a chance read my sitch but basically I told my W to either choose the OM, ruin her life and get out, OR stay with me and work it out! I blew up and let my emmotions take over in front of the kids! Not good! It felt good at the time, and truly I feel better right now that I got some stuff off my chest. Yet I feel very bad, and angry at myself that I did not control myself better. I regret doing it, and want to smooth things out, but it maybe too late! I really have limmited my options, and I hate that! I have hit the wall in my sitch, and I have been seperated since April, and tried to recouncil since Nov. Does that make my reaction justifiable...to me yes...is it right...time will only tell, but I do regret it! Take the time and think things through. You are right you are the only one who knows what needs to be done and when. I remember when in my first post that Frank told me to push her to be with the OM to find out what it would be like! I said never, and now guess what I did!!!!! Really take time to think things out for yourself, and seperate your thoughts from your W actions! I wish I would have listned to my own advice, but instead I reacted to my W actions! It is easy to give advice tougher to put your own adice into action!
Tim
my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1
