The slow walk home 3

[Tim297181]

I can't remeber where I read it but it has stuck in my mind. It went something like this:

"To truly be responsible and secure in your abilities as a person is being ableto serve others without any expectations of recognition or any favours to be owed in return"

I believe it was in a book about leadership that I once read.

Anyways my point is that I found when I started to do things for my W without any expectations or anything giving in return our R started to improve. I was always a score keeper in regards to "I did this for you and now what about ME". The balancing act at least in my situation was when do you draw the line, and start saying what about me. Is the other person abusing your good actions. I let the resentment creep back in, and I began to ask what about ME I have done so much for you, and this was the start of the down turn in the recouncilliation for us. Maybe I needed to do it, but I know I took it to far.

Frank I know you have set very clear boundaries with your W, and that took a tremendous amount of strength. It will only help you and your realationships down the road.