This might help, it might not. But here it goes. It’s going to be long, so I hope this helps.
Do you remember where you were when you watched 911 on the TV? I do. I was standing next to my wife while we watched. We said nothing to each other. That is how catastrophic that was; you could not even say a word. Well did you know that for 6 months give or take a month or so that divorce filings fell more than any other time in history and that divorces that were in the six month period fell out at the same rate?
You SHOULD now this better than I, that when things like that happen (i.e. Loss of life or economic calamity) it makes people view life differently.
So here is my point. What would happen if God forbid something happen to you or suddenly the world changed in a big way? I think OM would be gone and your marriage would be on a different track. You might ask where am I going with this?
You need to spend some time on some TRUE economic websites to get a TRUE understanding of what is taking place around the globe and in this country. What happens when people get materialistic? They start to abuse things, they take things for granted, they stop showing TRUE character, family does not mean as much as personal gain, selfishness and on and on.
This country is going to get CHECKED in a HUGE way and it’s starting NOW and has been brewing for 20 years. I can’t go into because well if you don’t see my point and you watch CNBS and read the WJ or LAT and you are like my family (Wife’s Family) you'll get bored and just blow me off and say that’s ridiculous. Of course without asking for proof or debate, but that’s another story. I’ll come back to this in a minute.
If you read the last page of my posts you'll see me give up and come back. I THINK I am at a point now where I understand what my wife is doing and what I need to do. I know my wife and I believe I got her number. Her calls are her trying to stay connected and at her own pace she is connecting. All I have to do is be there to get the call. But yes there could always be something I missed and the other shoe will drop. But two of the most important things I think about are:
1. I can’t make my wife love me, I can’t 2. Guys like me are VERY, VERY hard to find.
So back to the financial point
There are many reasons why somebody loves somebody. Probably too many to list here today but I’ll tell you this. When the United States economy sinks into recession with high interest rates, high gas prices at the pump, declining assets values, and on and on. Oh, and by the way you don’t have to go very far, just look at the 2 yr vs the 10 yr bond to get an idea. INVERTED. I could tell a story that would scare the crap out of you. That is not my point here right now. It’s to tell you that if you look at the big picture you are the most stable thing in her life and she will run back to you when the sh*t hits the fan. And it will Frank, turn OFF the TV and read. Don’t know where to read ask me, I’ll tell you.
Now if you know this already and I hope you do. I thought I would bring it to your attention so you could remember it. What is the difference between your wife seeing what an idiot this OM is and a financial reckoning day for the United States. Neither one of them guarantees a good marriage after she comes back. But I’ll tell you this, they both will wake her up. Now I can only guarantee one thing. The Day of Reckoning is coming. Period. I just can’t tell you when.
But you do know how long your going to live in the house with your wife. Set that time frame, keep DB’ing and then on that final day move on. Very, Very few men could do what you are doing Frank. Kids or not, when you bring another M or W into the picture you Sh*t on the vows you took. Take this idea:
Would you have married your wife if she told you that she was going to have an A sometime around your 15th year of marriage and could not tell you if it would end your marriage or not?
I am sure I know your answer.
So, this OM is a total DI*K. Here are some of things I would be saying if I were having an A with your wife.
1. How much money are you making. 2. Well here is what I am making. 3. Were will we live 4. What about the kids 5. How is Frank taking this 6. what does he say 7. What about your kids, are they sad mad what? 8. What has your family said, do they support you 9. How much money will frank give you 10. have you filed paperwork and if not why 11. When are you going to move out if at all 12. Do you want more kids 13. Could you move out here or are the kids keeping you there 14. Is there anybody else you are seeing in CA
I could think of more but hey I am not a total piece a SH*T Just a controlling one, who is trying to change. J So really what is this guy about. He does not seam to credible to me. High school [censored]. I know this opinion does not help your heart but I am on the outside looking in.
Now he is not saying any of these. So what the Fu*k. Stay the course follow your C. You have come this far why change now. Get your Balance Sheet in stellar order (your going to need it) and wait for this DI*K to show exactly what HE does not have. Only a TOTAL PUS*Y, who has no money, no self-esteem, no goals, no character would enter into another mans territory. This is not Rah, Rah.
Sh*T frank if my wife even hints that she is going to date. She will get served within 5 days. Done. And I think she would do the same to me. Believe me, another dog J right now would be cool. It would screw me up big time but hey my heart and you know what would feel a lot better. So I CHOOSE to stay committed and faithful no matter what the alien does. And so should you. I hate it when people say this to me. Trust me. But IF it does not work out, wouldn’t you want to FEEL in your heart that you did EVERYTHING you could. Those kinds of people are rare; I am trying to be one of them.
So just to re-cap. I am not sure if I bounced around:
1. Hardship is coming that everybody born from 1960 till present has never seen nor been thru. Don’t lie to yourself it IS coming. And this joker will show his true colors. (i.e. Non-reporting M3 / Bourse)
2. You have been this far, set the timeframe based on what your C says and follow it. Stay the course. If you stop and go the other way you will have wasted your time. I now you don’t want to do that.
3. Obviously don’t file D let your wife do it and know that a day is coming that will wake her up to the truer things in life. But just know it yourself and don’t bother her with it.
I can only hope this was constructive as I am only trying to give you what you have given me.
My understanding of the financial world helps me keep my goals, helps me understand the decisions I have made which in fact has put me where I am today. Closing my business down and selling my house put me where I am at today. 100% true. I know, I know, but I love my wife and I accept her 100%. I was kind of kidding when I told my wife I would divorce her to get the house sold. But here I am and I am VERY happy with the financial decisions I have made. And I know one day she will respect for the very tough decisions I had to make. I only hope she will be my wife when she realizes it. And with this I make a point.
“We always hurt the ones we love first. I hurt my wife she is hurting me. You hurt your wife now she is hurting you”
I wonder if PayBack is a word in your C dictionary? Or maybe its just a word in the dictionary of the subconscious mind.
Just a controlling one, who is trying to change. J So really what is this guy about. He does not seam to credible to me. High school [censored]. I know this opinion does not help your heart but I am on the outside looking in.