You are quite amazing. You definitely did the right thing by offering up a way your wife can do the massage therapy. If it works out, and it sounds like it will, she is going to start feeling a lot better about herself, and I'll bet you see bigger changes for the better in her. I seriously doubt OM is coming to join her in this business. In a way, YOU are helping her open the LOMI massage therapy, not OM! I know you have reservations about what you did, but I seriously believe you did a wonderful thing. She will grealy appreciate it, too.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.