Quote: Now who is making her dream come true? With your help, she can do it on her OWN and there is no way in heck she would want to have someone else (him) helping her if she can be convinced she can do it on her own, without him. He is nothing but a means to her. A way to make her dream come true. Once you take that away from him, he is powerless.
I can agree with you in principle, there is still the 'in love' part and the 'dream of working in the same business with your spiritual lover' part. She may think this is a way to get him here sooner, who knows?
She and I talked more about the opportunity this morning. She is starting to think about the other expenses she will have to come up with to 'get started' but she's pretty excited so far, and nervous. I KNOW she has talked to OM about it so I'm sure he's all excited for her, probably being SO supportive and excited for her unlike ME who is supportive and actually proud of her, and helping her. But he's her lover and she wants that validation so she can continue to believe they are truly in love.
She told me that Counselor had told her that it's better for her to do the things she needs to do to get her self able to support herself while living under this roof (which I knew, and is part of the attempt by C and I to get her to see we are better TOGETHER). That seems to make her feel like she is 'safe' to take the risk, but she's still a little scared she said. I reminded her of when I started the last company I had, 10 years ago, she and I did invoices in our bedroom and I told her I was scared then too but I knew I could do it.
I think she never knew I was scared then and I told her that I was fearful I couldn't support the family then. Maybe it made her think about what I HAVE done that's good.
I wonder if she will ever 'get' that it's US TOGETHER that is making this possible. If she really was 'on her own' it wouldn't happen. I'm not going to say that to her though. I just hope she sees it eventually. But OM is still the 'romance novel' relationship and it's filling her empty space. God I wish he had really faded out.
We're going camping today. It was a spur of the moment decision last nite by D15 and W. They asked me what I though t and I gave them the lowdown on our cold weather equipment and that it wouldn't be a good idea BUT we could rent a Tent Trailer and go and have fun! The 'old me' would have stopped at 'it will be too cold'. Another 180.
I had to run around to rent the trailer, get light cables and stuff so I hope she recognizes the effort!
So, another 'family' outing together like the 'kayak' adventure last weekend. For a soon to be divorced family we are starting to do a lot more 'all the family together' stuff. Maybe it's just a coincidence.
I'm still in a little depression about the return of OM. It's just going to be the way it is. I would like to put a lot of hope into Counselors 'claim' that I should not give up, that she would see some change in 3 more weeks because C is making progress. I am so afraid to hope again.
