The slow walk home 3

[Tim297181]

I guess, in DB terms, the most applicable theory is the one about not believing much (don't remember the %) of what you hear and nothing that you see. She is writing those things in a vacuum, one that contains only him and her. I think that is a similar situation most of our WAS are in with their OP.
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TMU

Frank as TMU said before your sitch does bring a tear to my eyes also! You and many of the others here I have never met personally but have a huge place in my heart!

I have to agree with TMU, that our WAS spouses are not in the real world. They are only thinking of themselves and the OP, and their sitch is extremely exagerated.
Someone earlier on in your sitch said the realationship with the OM is like an addiction. It is so true. They know deep down it is wrong, but they get such an extreme high from doing it, then they feel guilt, reality comes in, they want to escape again, and the cycle continues. The worse thing is we are along for the ride and see what is happening and they are blind to it!
You can do this! Don't give up! You have done so many things right, just keep it up and look at the positives!
Many of us gain strength from you and you need to know that is because you are doing things that work. You have fallen victim to "expectations"! I think you told me not to expect things from my W, and do things for yourself! All for me personally things looked very dark this morning, and I thought my W was home packing her bags to leave after what I did, but instead she said she wants to be with me! Positive yes, you just never know!