Quote: This is b*llshit. Its like you have two people who are REALLY Fu*ked Up. I mean really. Its a joke. They appear to be longing for something like a drug addict. i cant explain it. Its not even like its rational.
I totally agree, it's just like the articles on affairs describe it. Immature, teenager type actions. It's an escape. BUT IT'S important to know that the ones in December were way more 'alien'. These are toned down, which makes me think something is changing...
Quote: I would be worried if he talked about you and the kids more. Talk real issues about life and creating one together. I know it all seems like pain to you and remember "I love you" are just ckicken scratches on a piece of paper. I bet if those emails were written in Chinese it would not affect you in the least. Get the point. I am sure you do.
I hadn't really thought about it that way - they don't talk about a 'life' or anything 'real or concrete' They don't talk about the kids or me. It's all 'airy fairy' stuff. In fact, her telling of the story about the 'brownies' did not include ME taking care of her that nite.
Quote: I'm going to have to agree w/ Shark on this one. And do you remember several weeks ago when you got mad at me for calling OM "wishy-washy"? . Well dang, if that ain't the same term that just popped into my head again about him!
I am so stupid when it comes to this stuff because it's MY LIFE. I can't analyze it myself. I spent an hour talking to a friend who basically said to me this guy is nothing but a 'fabrication', he is making up his life, it's not real. And I felt so RELEIVED the other nite when she said "but there's this empty place inside me that I need to figure out how to fill myself, and I don't know how. It was filled when I had the 'relationship' but now that's gone." because I thought she was saying OM was fading out. These e-mails confuse me.
WHat I am REALLY looking for is the relationship between her comments last nite (there's this empty place inside me that I need to figure out how to fill myself, and I don't know how. It was filled when I had the 'relationship' but now that's gone.) and the e-mails from the past couple weeks. Now mind you that the last week there was very little e-mail or phone calls. I am trying to figure out:
1) Is she slowly losing his luster? Seems like he doesn't tell her much about himself when she asks. 2) He doesn't go out of his way to call her, but he's "in love!". 3) Her post on Jan 10th seems to be a statement that she is going to back off and deal with HER problems.She doesn't really understand this bizzarre relationship they have. 4) She asks him if he is attracted to her. He answers in a vague manner by saying "Yes I am attracted to you. I was not at first , In fact I really didn't register you... Until I saw the pain in your eyes and it affected me...well you know how it affected me." How would most women take that comment? 5) She asks repeatedly to get to know him better but it appears from her comments that he doesn't say anything, unless it's during the cell calls.
This is one of those posts where I would actually welcome 'NYSurvivors' opinion cause it'd be really interesting to hear
