Frank,

I'm going to have to agree w/ Shark on this one. And do you remember several weeks ago when you got mad at me for calling OM "wishy-washy"? . Well dang, if that ain't the same term that just popped into my head again about him! Through your words I have seen that your wife and you share some incredibly "real" moments together, You are close. But in a way, she reminds me of me when I was lost and looking for a place to fall apart....turned out that that place was home all along...but it took my venturing out into the wilderness of an A before I could find that out. I mentioned earlier that your W is searching...Well for now, she has latched onto this guy who represents a new chance for her - one that REALLY lies with you - but she can't see that yet. He's offering her a pipe dream and I have to wonder, if he really came to where you are, if she'd walk...would she go that far with it. The allure of the unattainable is often the whole attraction in a nutshell - I'm inclined to think that if it should all become a REAL option, she just might not want it after all but instead might be moved to work on really healing herself and your marriage.