phase3 I am a bit worried about the pic you are getting in your head from us aussie women. we are all sweet innocent and kind and very sexy LOL hugs ruth
phase3 I am a bit worried about the pic you are getting in your head from us aussie women. we are all sweet innocent and kind and very sexy LOL
... and modest too
Anyway, text message was a success and he replied straight away saying thanks.
Yes there was still a certain amount of deliberation over this birthday thing. Sending the text only is a real 180 for me. Generally I made a big fuss of birthdays as wah's family inevitably forgot.
But I sensed my the lack of contact of late, that he is probably troubled by it all, and decided a jokey text probably the best.
Drama of sorts. When S14 woke up I reminded him to call his father. He said he was having lunch with him anyway. Now apparently, the night before wah rang S14 directly on the mobile to ask him to lunch. I didn't even hear the phone, but that was the night I had friends over, so things probably noisy. S said it was late.
After they all left about 1130, I noticed S14 rather upset. Looked like he had been crying. Wouldn't tell me why. My first thought was I had said something about wah and he had heard. But no I hadn't and generally don't say much to friends anyway.
So he was upset about the call. Didn't want to discuss it , so I let it go.
I was out when he got picked up, and then got home at 2. He was already home. So he had been picked up at 12, gone to lunch with wah and ow and back by 2. Not very happy, said wah didn't even open the present (but did say thanks).
I have to admit my first thought was to text wah and just ask him if he even thinks about the impact this has on S14. Didn't though as I know he doesn't. He seems to have cycled back to where he was shortly post bomb, where distancing himself. Probably due to the fact he turned 40, and has big issues about that. Anyhow not my problem.
Anyhow, that night S came into my room and we hung out and watched George Clooney in "Out of Sight" and ate jelly snakes and mucked around. Dogs loved it as they snuck on the bed and we would give them a snake to have a tug of war with. Lots of laughs. So he will be ok. Touched on it slightly.
I fell asleep on George (yeah I wish). You know you're getting old when your kids stay up later than you
Where oh where has Wanker's brain gone? Where oh where can it be? With his shirts too short and his pants too long What happened to the man who married me? (er Kismet, I mean)
Sounds like you've been busy. Hope your son is feeling better. Did he ever let you in on what was upsetting him? Did he and the wanker have a good relationship prior to the bomb?
My boys seem to be coping fairly well. They did not have a close R with my wanker. They have come to not expect much and I am finally able to accept that this will be the nature of their relationship forever. My C has met all the boys and she feels that they are being authentic and are really not crushed that the wanker left. The "perfect family" was really only my fantasy, fairytale, whatever. Attention! Cinderella has left the building! Bout time.
I fell asleep on George (yeah I wish).
Me too!
Have a great day! (or night?)
Spitfire
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
Hope your son is feeling better. Did he ever let you in on what was upsetting him? Did he and the wanker have a good relationship prior to the bomb?
Hi SF. No it will have been wah though. S14 probably said he didn't want to go, and wah would have made him feel guilty to get him to go. We have had this before, and I snooped and read wah no wanker's text messages to S14 and it was very manipulative stuff to get him to see his cousins. Plus this is only the 2nd time he has seen ow.
All wah cares about is himself so talking to him won't do any good. Wanker texted S this morning and he was fine until then, then cranky. I will just let it go for now, and in time S will bring it up with me. Last incident was a couple of months back, and we got through that ok.
I am grateful that S has reconnected more strongly with his friends, and will encourage that as much as I can, so when wanker is in his spin we are not twirled up in it as well. Prior to the bomb he was a very good father, very close, but probably the last 6 months prior to the bomb, not so much. Grrrr.
Feeling happy with myself, went and did my grocery shop, and they had oriental dinner sets on special. Thought how nice they would be for sushi. Price scanned incorrectly. I nearly didn't go back but decided to even though only $2 difference. They gave it to me for free! So a very happy camper.
Attention! Cinderella has left the building! Love it, yes, this is a princess free zone here too.
Hi Kismet, sounds like you had a great weekend and look at all these bargains you keep getting someone is on your side.
It is such a [censored] what H is doing, without any consideraton for S but S will wake up in his own time and unfortunately probably not want alot to do with H, if he keeps this up..
Hey Kim, I think S14 is already at the point where he doesn't want to spend much time with his father. I mean in the last week he only saw him once and then had to share him with ow. But I will just try and fill S's life up with as many other things/people as possible.
I am not bringing it up with him, but noticed last night as well he came into my room and we watched "Waking the Dead" together and just joked around and talked about stuff, but not that. I think he will be fine as long as he feels secure.
In limbo right now as going back to college fulltime come Feb. Just trying to get house/garden in order. I am not going to apply for any jobs unless exactly what I want, or part-time to work around college until I get this certificate under my belt. It is only 3 days per week, so perhaps I can fit a casual job in as well.
Managed to finish filling the skip and got the garden cleaned up to a degree. Lots of pruning of plants, not that you can really tell. But a good 3 hours solid in the garden.
So nothing really happening in my life. Thoughts of wah still creep in but not as much. Eg yesterday, I had to saw a tree and couldn't find the tree saw so used some other saw which was rusty anyway. I could just hear wah whinging that I was doing it wrong, but I didn't listen to him.
