Hello there. I'd like to hear more about the beauty tips!
Makeup goodies are so much fun. My cousin works for a big dept. store and always sends me these marvelous Chanel samples--creams, perfume, etc. I'm a girly girl so I love that.
Good for you on the clothing you bought; and on sale too. Can't beat that.
Stir fry pumpkin...care to share the entire recipe? I bought myself a nice wok for Christmas and have been enjoying stir fry dinners, too.
Thinking of you.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
You seem to have a knack for finding things on sale. Good for you! I'm not very good at that.
Didn't know your H had been gone for 8 months. You seem to be in a pretty good place. Does the length of time have something to do with that or is it more your state of mind? Just curious. Was this a gradual tranformation for you or were there significant events that contributed to where you are right now. You have not done anything legal, right?
Sorry for the inquisition. Trying to make some decisions.
Spitfire
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
Hey Kismet. Fooled me with your new thread title. I want one of those Voodoo dolls too. Can't decide whether to paste OM's picture or XW's picture on it though. Maybe I need two.
Bet the little girl's dad put her up to it. Wasn't while you were shopping for sexy knickers was it?
And Spit, time helps, a lot. That and when you get to the point where you can conjure up bad memories of how you have been treated in the situation to counteract any longing.
Kissy..Sorry for the hijack. Al, I live in Central Ohio outside of Columbus. I know that even though I have been on this coaster for about 3 years, it has been a relatively short amount of time since I've sorted out my feelings. About 4 months. I know things will get better in time. I hate having all this hanging over my head.
Thanks for your input.
Spitfire
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
Ahem ~ this is an apology free thread. We don't apologise for rambling nor hijacking. This includes the Royal We ~ Princess Bossy Boots (can you tell I am the oldest child?)
Stir fry pumpkin...care to share the entire recipe? I bought myself a nice wok for Christmas and have been enjoying stir fry dinners, too.
Hope ~ not a recipe as such just something I do that is quick and easy. Just fry a heaped teaspoon (or more if you are like me and lurve it) of cumin and then toss in slivers of pumpkin. I like to cook it until crunchy with some brown sweeter bits. Usually I serve as a hottish salad over a bed of baby spinach or rocket (I think you guys call it aragula) and slivers of parmesan and lots of black pepper, and some salt. Enjoy
Didn't know your H had been gone for 8 months. You seem to be in a pretty good place. Does the length of time have something to do with that or is it more your state of mind? Just curious. Was this a gradual tranformation for you or were there significant events that contributed to where you are right now. You have not done anything legal, right?
SF ~ I did the biggest 180 of all time. I came here as a sad pitiful thing adamant that I wanted my man back. Instead of saving my m, I found me, the one who had gone awol years back. For a few months, I did weekly counselling sessions with a colleague of a friend who saw the mess I was in.
I have discovered a lot of things about myself, why I married wah, why things were as they were... I don't think I want wah back at all, and he is barely talking to me, and unlikely to come out of the fog anytime soon.
I do need to exercise hard daily or my PMA plummets. I am also on ads, but hope to be off those shortly. Still have the occaisonal spiralling down of the thoughts though.
Nothing legal as yet. Only 1 talk with wah about anything remotely r like, which was shortly post bomb, where he said stay in the house as long as you like. I pay the mortgage and all my bills ~ everything. He does pay child support (and quite a bit more than legally obligated to). I am very lucky in that my B is a family lawyer. He is very good ( I couldn't afford him ) and divorced himself. So hopefully if things ever got nasty he would come into bat for his sister. Mum has also offered to help me buy wah out.
I am happy to stay in financial limbo for now simply as it is more affordable. Mind you if the $$ tree surprised me with a bountiful crop, I would love to settle things, just so I could wack a big "Under New Management" sign on my front gate
Great day yesterday ~ sushi lunch with friend. I tried fried lotus root which is very nice. Came home as full as a fat lady's bra. Then bad, bad friend dropped in 2 gluten free muffins which I had for breakfast this morning.
Busy weekend planned. Some birthday celebration tonight. May be a bbq at my house depending on weather/#s. Then I have a skip to fill with palm leaves etc, so big weekend in the jungle that is my garden.
Just checking up on you. You bounce back so nicely maybe I should try that 20 minutes you recommended. But's what with pushing the chocolate on me? Choco free zone remember?
What exactly are ADs? Are they for anxiety or anti-depressants or what exactly? Did they help you? I'm begginning to wonder for myself. Took an anxiety pill just a bit ago. Hopefully that will kick in soon.
Glad you had your St. Chris medal with you. I just remembered my near miss on Mon. I guess this PMA crash was happening even then. Anyway, I was backing up and almost hit a whole family. Mom, dad and little tyke. I didn't hit them but broke down and cried. Way too close.
Funny thing about medals. When H dropped the bomb back in May it was just about the time that Jude Law was making the papers. I love/loved Jude Law. When I saw that he cheated with the nanny (H's ow was a nanny) I started calling H Jude. I loved the play with words. Jude, Judas, Hey Jude (don't make her cry.....). Anyway, someone told me that St. Jude was the patron saint of lost things. Wow! Then when we moved into our new apt. here in Chicago, I found a St. Jude medallion in the cupboard. Weird or what?
Flaneur, careful in the car, that near miss sounds scary.
Glad you had your St. Chris medal with you.
Isn't it horrid though, it is one of the magnetic ones, and new car is all plastic inside, not one place where he can stick. So he is protecting me from the centre console tray.
Love Hey Jude
Had a lovely day yesterday. Very hot day, so just stayed inside and got domesticated. S14 went to movies. He had a mate over who I haven't seen in 6 months and puberty has hit in the meantime. I am thinking S is being rude so introduced myself as didn't recognise him. He had changed from a smallish boy into a man sized boy, voice changing, whole face changed. I guess I have that in the not so distant future as mine hasn't grown into his feet (which are huge) as yet, and I think will be over 6 foot like my brothers.
I am meant to be in the garden today and it is pelting down rain At least things have cooled off and when it stops, I can go out, but no signs of easing yet.
LOvely night last night. I had 3 friends over for a birthday dinner for 1 of them.Nothing much but largest entertaining I have done to date post bomb.
2 had never been to my house and loved it. My house is very different, very basic, very open. I don't have windows on one side, just flywire screens and shutters to pull down in cyclones. So you either love it or hate it. When we bought it wah loved it, but towards the end hated it. Just keeping seeing the bad points.
But I still love it and am continually amazed at the comments I get from nearly everyone who walks in. So it was a gentle reminder to me how lucky I am to have a place to live in that is a haven to me.
Great night, lots of eating and chatting. Just comfortable.
Wah's 40th today. Have not seen/heard from him in nearly 1 week. Will get S14 to call him and I did buy a lovely set of pilsener glasses for him. He used to love Guiness but who knows these days.
I just sent him a text message; "Happy Birthday Old Fart. Have a good one love w & s".
Hey Kismet. You sound good. Keep having friends over. It's a great while to put a smile on your face. I think it was quite nice to acknowledge wanker's birthday, BTW
Quote: Hey Kismet. You sound good. Keep having friends over. It's a great while to put a smile on your face. I think it was quite nice to acknowledge wanker's birthday, BTW
Yeah it was pretty funny, guess they don't make those black balloons down there that have the Over The Hill saying on them...
...guess they don't make those black balloons down there that have the Over The Hill saying on them...
Seems to me the Aussies tend to take everything to the next level. So instead of the black balloons, I bet they don't do anything at all, then the next time they see whoever had the birthday they look surprised and say, "Damb, you're so old I just assumed you were dead. Sorry I didn't get you anything."
I may be wrong, but that's my guess.
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) and divorced himself. So hopefully if things ever got nasty he would come into bat for his sister. Mum has also offered to help me buy wah out.
At least things have cooled off and when it stops, I can go out, but no signs of easing yet.