Blackie, This explains why I would pick fights with my H when it wasn't necessary--to get an emotional reaction from him. Actually, it's even more than that...if I poke him long and hard enough, he roars. Like a MAN. His strength and force knocks me on my arse. I back down right away. And I'm a strong woman. (with a very big mouth, lol)
It never occurred to me that I do this subconsciously to elicit this very reaction, but it's sure possible. It bugs me that he acts passive and I believe it bugs him too.
