"Just got back from night skiing, was showing friend constellations, which lead to messing with mythology and horoscopes. (her middle name is athena, oh brother, pretentious parents....) Then I asked her if she knew why the sky is dark when the sun goes down, if there are all those millions of stars out there..... tried to explain the difference between a static infinite universe that would cause infinite spatial luminescence, and a finite expanding universe that creates a dark sky, hence a beginning, beginnor...... she IS a math major.... was thinking Chromo has a cool F'ing job. so um anychance there are some budding physics majors going to belize? LOL j/k."
Dang, sounds like you had a fun date with Olber being the 3rd wheel. Did she follow the logic and/or agree with it. I find most of my students can't quite catch what I am saying when I explain that. Most kids these days have a terrible time with spatial recognition.
Most of the Belize-ers are going to be Geology/Geography majors.
"Wanted to say --Corrie promised you a demo of a proper fight. Check it out. Corrie vs BF slugfest. not personalizing, staying out of OP sh!t, acknowledgement of OP POV and owning mistakes made. There is also some de-escaltion techniques in there. Ill point them out later... unless you see them."
I see some of what you are talking about, but pointing things out more explicitly would be welcome if you have the time.
"FWIW chromo, often you will find that you learn the most about your SO during arguments, strife, fighting, if you can stay detached. they let it all hang out and say what they really want/need even while they are being mean and attacking from misguided self preservation. Fights also drop tons of EC chemicals into the mix, (you dont fight with people who are irrelevant to you emotionally), though the resulting withdrawal from the actually extreme intimate encounter of a fight, is often handled incorrectly. presumption of indifference/loss/abandonment."
I hear what you are saying. But I will say that my W and I probably have never had a fight like you describe.
"That Guy made excellent use of creating conflict and using the situation in his favor. Now THAT is exactly the Right way to Fight FOR your spouse, for those in a infidelity situation. It is a serious tightrope between negative pushing, and chasing."
Tell me more, again if you have time. Of course, ThatGuy is looking at it from the other perspective if I am not mistaken.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
Did she follow the logic and/or agree with it. I find most of my students can't quite catch what I am saying when I explain that. Most kids these days have a terrible time with spatial recognition.