Ok...just got through your posts, was pretty much off the board yesterday. You do realize that an EA, doesn't have to be 2-sided don't you? You are already having one if you are having feelings like this about this guy leaving......AVOID HIM!!!
You THINK you can hold off on doing anything until this guy leaves....you THINK?! AVOID HIM Fran, you are having an EA.....you are in the danger zone big time! You are investing too much time and emotion thinking about this man, the time you are investing thinking about this man and getting worked up about him leaving is time you aren't investing in your M.
So...I'm going to repeat this one last time....AVOID HIM!
I'm not saying these things to be harsh to you, but I'm being flat-out-blunt honest with you as to what I see. I know many people have the opinion that two people must be involved for any type of an A to happen, not true. EA's can be very one-sided. You can be the only person having these feelings and thoughts and still be having an EA. EA's are just as dangerous as PA's. IMPO the y can be more so since many people can have a PA and never become emotionally attached.
My father is having an EA. He would never see it that way, but I know it to be true. I hear him talk about this woman (who is my age) he lives and breaths this woman and her family. If she needs something he runs, leaving my mom at home. Now, this woman...hasn't a clue how my dad feels, or how he sees her...but he invests this time in her rather than in his own M and it's damaging. You may not be running off to this guy at work, but you are spending far too much time thinking about him....so it's at the very least an infatuation.
You say you think you can hold off on doing anything....don't just think it Fran do it, make the choice to do what's best for your M. Taking that step wouldn't be a minor detour at this point in your M, it would be driving it off a cliff.
