Phew! A lot is going on w/you. I do hope you are taking time to take care of yourself and bond a bit with little man.... such a special time for a mother-to-be; I hope your H's sit is not distracting TOO much from that.
And I'm happy that H is showering you w/attention. From what you write, it does sound pretty genuine. You think we'll be able to add you to the "success" board in time?
I was a little concerned when you were writing about your feelings about sharing this time with OW and her baby. I can totally understand why you would feel that way, but have you thought about things you and H can do to make your baby and this time special and separate from OW pregnancy? Are you planning a baby shower? Have you thought about maybe getting a family potrait together, or maybe just one of you, to capture this special time in your life? Are you two setting up the baby's room, buying things, etc.? That might help to aleviate some of your feelings.
As for OW and that timeline.. it's sounds a bit fishy, but I can't remember all the details of your sit, so.... when did H actually start sleeping with OW? If you have the timeline correct, she would have missed her period and had the first negative tests in Nov.. which means she got knocked up a couple weeks before that.... mid-Oct? And come on.. even if she is pregnant, given she has two other kids, she should know that you can't feel the baby 1.5 months into a pregnancy, nor can you tell the sex... Totally a manipulative B****.... I didn't think dr's even scheduled a first appointment for a pregnancy until, at the earlies, 8 weeks in... so Dec?
It's also curious she wants an amnio done... It could be too late for that, if she really is 15 weeks... other than testing for potential suspected defects, it really serves no other purpose... she can wait till she's further along and has another ultrasound to find out the sex, and paternity tests can be done immediately after the baby is born.
Lastly... I hope you and H are keeping track of, and recording the details of, all conversations, encounters, etc., with OW. Just in case she is pregnany and tries something crazy once the baby is born... can be used to court, if anything comes to that...
Hang in there- your strength amazes me!
PetiteFlower
Quote: Follow Your Bliss
~Joseph Campbell
