Hi P&DB, I just wanted to stop in and say hi. I really am in aww by your sitch(I have actually told my SIL about it and we sypathize for you). In one way it gives me hope, b/c me and you are in somewhat of the same sitch. I tell you, you are an amazing woman, to hold strong for your marriage, espacialy finding this out, seesh! All my frinds and family say I'm incredibly strong as well, to be willing to stick this out while my H is off making a mockery of our marriage and family, on top of being pregnant. They say he is making a huge mistake b/c no other woman would do that for his sorry a**. Well, I was thinking that about your sitch, and it looks like your H is realizing what he is going to lose if he doesn't shape up.
Keep your head up, we are all here for you!
Hope all is well with your litte baby boy, my baby girl is coming within 2 weeks!