Hey Miss Sassy Pants! One thing I can assure you is that my L isn't trying to get a yacht. He's been a friend of mine for about 10 years and let's just say I'm getting one heck of a deal when it comes to legal representation. I'm very lucky to have him. We are, of course, trying to squeeze my atty fees out of H, though, but right now we're just going full throttle then anticipate backing down some.

I think L's ultimate goal is to get H to mediate; that's the best possible solution for everyone. But the problem is that H hasn't been agreeable with anything we've proposed. In his typical fashion, he wants what we wants -- nothing less. It's his way, or the highway. So the message we're trying to send to him, I guess, is that he's *not* in the best position to get his way, or to be so rigid in his legal stance. And whatever it takes to make him negotiate is what we're going to do.

How my H interprets my answer is not my problem, though I've been worried about it from day one. But I had told him over and over that this isn't the avenue I wanted to take, and I had warned him how we were going to "counterattack." H and I started working things out between the two of us last month, then I caught him with OW. And instead of calmly talking to me about it, he accuses me of being a "manipulative b*tch," told me he hates me all over again, said "I don't have feelings for you and that's why I don't care about your feelings," and then served more papers on me.

So I've finally gotten to the point where I'm gonna say f*ck him. He's gettin' what's comin' to him.