Hit the wall now what......New thread

[Tim297181]

Thanx Kim
I am taking your advice and only addressing subjects when she opens the door about them. Amazingly enough now that I have made it clear that I am done and ready for the next phase she all of sudden wants to talk!
The kids....
When we first seperated we lived in 2 different cities and we split the kids 2 weeks with me and 2 weeks with her. Tough on the kids (5 hr drive) and it soon became just about 3 weeks with me and 1 with her. I could not handle it anymore and moved back to start a new life and allow the kids to be close to both of us.
Right now the kids are settled here with me. I spend 85% of the time with them becasue the demands of school and the OM take my wife away. She had a brilliant idea that we rent an apartment and the kids stay in the house and we would spend 2 weeks at the apartment and 2 weeks at the house. How about personal space?
I have made it very clear that financially I can not support 2 households anymore, and that if she wants her own place she will have to pay for it. She sees that as me controlling her again not as her accepting responsibility for her actions.
She does think the kids would go with her, but what I have demonstrated and done over the past several months would give me strong case. I should say I would never want to put my kids through that and I do not want to take them away from their mother either because I have seen the damage it has done to my W first hand not having a mother growing up.
When it comes to the kids we love them deeply and I am sure we will do what is right for them!